I want to preface this article by saying that I’ve gotten the help I needed and am doing much better now.
The words in front of me are running away. My friends are talking but all I can decipher is something about hanging out. I feel something at the back
of my throat and my eyes start to burn. Then the bell rings and everything stops. I look down and see that I once again didn’t complete an assignment. Now I have more to stress about.
I have always done well in school. Around February 2024, I lost interest in it all. I had so much going on that I felt like I wasn't doing enough. Then I
got my first ever grade below a B-. That's when I finally realized the problem was something bigger, and it was impacting me enough that I couldn’t do my favorite things.
The number one cause of depression in teens is stress. This can mean stress from anything, including school, family, and relationships. In fact, 75
percent of highschoolers consistently feel stressed because of school work. It can be good, but also bad. For example, in my case, it was bad stress.
My stressor was academics. The accomplishments I had started to feel too small and I felt as if I wasn’t making my parents proud. That made me
lose interest in doing anything. If my accomplishments weren't enough, then nothing was ever going to be.
I never told anyone about my feelings. Instead, I tried to figure it out by myself, but it proved to be harder than I thought. I started to feel irritated and
didn't want to be around people. This hurt my social life. I would feel guilty for not going out and then proceed to not go out because of my guilt.
In school, I would go to class, try to finish my assignment, fail to finish my assignment, go home and hate myself for not finishing it. When my family was around I lied and told them I was doing amazing in school while trying to hide the missing assignments under my bed.
I genuinely didn't know what to do and tried many things. I looked up videos on what to say and how to reach out. Those didn’t help and I always chickened out before I hit send or opened my mouth.
Truthfully, one of the things that helped while I was going through a depressive episode was a hotline. I didn't want to tell my parents because they would have just said, “You're being dramatic.” My friends were going through actual events in their life and I felt as if my problems were too silly to just go up to them and say, “Hey, I feel so stressed and not accomplished enough that I genuinely need help.”
Texting the hotline felt stupid. But I wanted to ask someone if I was just being an attention seeker or if I was valid. This felt easier than burdening a
friend and feeling guilty about it. While the hotline still needs some improvement, I found it was a good way to get some things off my chest.
The hotline doesn't compare to talking to a real person. Once I built up the courage to tell someone I trusted, things felt better. I had found the help I
needed, I understood that I had control over my feelings. If I thought it was embarrassing, it was going to be. If I acknowledged that what I was going through was valid, I was able to fight through it.
Now more than ever, it's easy to feel embarrassed about every little thing because it can literally be out in the world forever. About one third of teens
who go through depression are too embarrassed to seek help. According to the World Health Organization, one in seven adolescents will go through a mental health problem but won’t get the help they need. It's important for us to be open and accept people's problems without judgment and instead guide them to the help they deserve. There are a lot of things we can’t do alone. There is no shame in seeking someone who is willing to listen, even if your biggest problem seems small. I know it’s scary, but through my experience, talking to someone is one thousand times more relieving than fighting through it alone.
https://www.who.int/news-room/fact-sheets/detail/adolescent-mental-health

